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The Body Image Killers

November 14th, 2011

The power of the mind. It’s totally incredible the power that lies between our ears. Scientists have studied and researched the awesome power that is in the human mind for centuries, and we’ve just scratched the surface of the immense power that lies deep inside.

I wrote an article awhile back on how the brain can be used to increase your willpower. The human abilities to do a lot of things would just blow you away, but we live in a very negative environment, and those negatives vibes and thought can be detrimental to your health, both physically and mentally.

To show you an example how powerful this is, I want you to go back into your childhood, back when you were growing up. Think of something that happened to you or maybe was said to you that so much effected you that even today, maybe after years and years, you can still vividly remember it.

As my wife was growing up and going through those very tough adolescent years, she remembers her father telling her, that it looked like she was smuggling water melons inside her thighs. It totally devastated her and she can still remember it as if it was only yesterday.

I think most of us, during those very sensitive adolescent years, when we were all so vulnerable and wide open for those kinds of attacks, were hurt the most. It’s during those times, when those negative remarks have scared us and cut us with deep riveting wounds, some that have still never healed completely.

Science has proven that a positive mental way of thinking can aid the human body in healing itself. Our human bodies are very complicated and intricate, but the human minds play an extreme role in not only the healing process, but in athletes excelling in their sports, and for all of us to be innovative and productive in all of the skills that God has gifted us with. Whatever your field of expertise is, engineering, writing, science, business, law enforcement, raising children, all of it can be rewarding and fulfilling with the right positive influences, but beware…because with just one timely accurate negative shot, and the whole thing can come tumbling down…if you let it.

Did you know that just the way you think of your body, your self-image, can determine how healthy you will be? Talk to people who are obese and overweight, and all of them have a very negative view of themselves and the way people perceive them.

Don’t let the body image killers, kill you!

I think that I am more sensitive to this than the average person because I was raised in such a negative home. I was so used to the negative comments growing up that I just never thought of myself as an achiever or someone who could do something with my life. I wouldn’t even try because I had decided, before I even started, that I would fail. This kind of viewpoint haunted me for most of my life, and even today still trys to come back and tell me that I can’t do it.

Negativism and negative people just get under my skin today. I have a real hard time dealing with them, and I know that we all have to at some point here and there, but it’s never an easy thing.

For those of you who are religious and read your bible, see how many times throughout the scriptures, God talks about a good positive mental attitude.

“as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7. “Finally, brothers and sisters,whatever is true, whatever is worthy of respect, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if something is excellent or praiseworthy, think about these things.” Philippians 4:8.

We live in a world that is negative and loves to swim in the ocean of negativism. News media sells news that’s all negative, because that’s what people want to hear.

I love sports and I love my Detroit Lions football team. They started out this season by rolling off five straight wins. Everything was rocking an rolling well with them, but all of a sudden they lost two games, and the negative remarks just  came out. People were turning on them and were talking and accentuating all the mistakes and negative elements of their game. How quickly all those people were jumping on the negative band wagon. Why? Because that’s where most of us live, but you know what…that’s a choice you make. You don’t have to park yourself there.

I’m going to give you three steps to take to change your course right now.

Surround yourself with positive people

Now I don’t mean to go out and divorce your spouse because they said a negative remark toward you, but as best you can, surround yourself with positive people. Your family and friends are your family and friends, don’t run from them but influence them with positive vibes, and don’t let them influence you.

Read and fill your mind with positive things

Stay away from the newspapers and TV. All they talk about is how many people were killed and robbed last night. I like to keep up with what’s happening in the world around me, but learn to filter the information you put into your mind. Remember…junk in…junk out.

Temper negative remarks with a grain of salt

Remember that people who say negative things are swimming in the ocean of negativity, and so they’re not going to be too good at seeing the positive in anything, let alone remarking in a positive way. Be the influence of positivity on them, and you will be surprised at what happens. They may like it, and than you’ve saved them from drowning in the ocean of negativism, or they will hate you and never want to talk to you again, which will be good also.

Get rid of the excuses

You want to lose weight and get on the road to a new healthy you, get rid of the excuses. People can’t make you negative and circumstances can’t keep you from achieving your goals, only you hold that power, not them.

As Dewey Bozella said, “never let fear determine who you are, and never let where you come from determine where you’re going.”

Who are you going to listen to, some stupid remark that was said to you 30, 40, or maybe even 50 years ago? Are you going to let that person control your life and destiny? They probably aren’t even alive anymore, and you’re going to let what a dead person said to you years ago, determine who you are and where you’re going?

Determine today who you are, who you really are… deep down inside, and let that person be the one who stands in the forefront of your life. Let that person guide you and shape you. Don’t let the negative lies from anyone distract you off your course.

Discover the power that lies in you, and let that person come alive, and than you go out, and help others and be that positive influence that the world so desperately needs today.

“Finally, brothers and sisters,  whatever is true, whatever is worthy of respect, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if something is excellent or praiseworthy, think about these things.” Philippians 4:8.


Do You Have The Desire To Always Be Something More Than You Are?

October 11th, 2011

When people go to weddings, lots of pictures are taken. After the celebrating is all over and we get together to see all the great pictures, but there are two very distinctive views as to how we look at those pictures.

When a picture is shown to a women, most of the time she is looking to see how all the other women looked in comparison to her. What they were wearing, how their hair looked, did that dress make them look fat, etc.

When a man looks at those same pictures, he’s just looking to see if he looked cool. He’s not comparing himself with anyone else, he just wants to see if he looked good. This is the way the two genders think and look at themselves, most of the time. There are always those who don’t fit into this mold, but for the most part, this is how men and women view themselves in our society.

Do you always have the desire to be something more than you are?  How many ladies out there are always wishing they had a smaller behind, or they wished they had that women’s hair, or they wished they had that women’s beautiful complexion, and the list goes on and on. It’s almost as if they are totally unhappy with themselves from head top toe. If it were possible to get a body transplant, I think that business would grow into a multimillion dollar industry over night.

Men are just as bad. I wish I didn’t have as much gray hair in my head. I used to have jet black, long and wavy hair when I was in my younger days. The real kicker came when a friend of my wife saw us out at the mall. She remarked to my wife  later, when she talked with her, ” I saw you and your father at the mall the other day.” I wanted to find the nearest whole and crawl into it. Now I have a beautiful wife, but I never thought that I looked like I could be her father, from a distance. It’s the gray hair that makes me look older, from a distance. Naturally when I get closer to you, you see that I am this strong and handsome man…don’t you?

Me, my jet black hair, and my beautiful wife back in our dating days.

The fact is that time doesn’t stand still, and age doesn’t either. We are all getting older and we are all aging. Granted some of us are going faster and in different ways from others, but that’s because we are all different, not better, just different. We are all wired differently and we are all unique in our own special way.

It comes down to getting to know the person that is you inside and becoming comfortable with that person. So many of us are so enamored with how we look compared to others instead of learning to be just you.

Take some time to look in the mirror, I don’t mean how your hair looks or how your makeup is, but to look at the person deep down inside. Take some time to learn about your strengths and the good and positive things that make you unique to everyone else, and don’t tell me that there are none, because there are more than you know. Find a close friend or your spouse, someone who really knows you, and ask them to truthfully and lovingly tell you.

It’s funny that others around us, who know us, can see so many more things in us that we can ever see in ourselves. Why, because we have worked our whole lives trying to program ourselves to be what we think others are, or what others want us to be.

I heard this statement a long time ago, and I can’t remember who said it, but it goes like this; “I am not what I think I am. I am not what you think I am. I have become what I think you think I am.” Now that may sound confusing, but repeat it a  couple of times to yourself nice and slow, and it will become very clear to you.

We live in a very fast paced world today and it seems like it goes faster all the time. We need to take a health day off. Take some time to reflect on you and the awesome person you are. You’re unique, and there is no one else like you. Don’t compare yourself to no one else because there is no one else like you.

There are always things that we can improve upon in our lives, and we should always be growing as individuals, but there is a quality of character that is all you, and there is a foundation that God has laid down that is all you, and that foundation you cannot change and that is the one thing you don’t want to change, because it is the essence of who you are. Learn about it, study it, and add good things to it, but don’t ever change it, and don’t ever wish that you could exchange it for someone else.

When you do this, you will become comfortable and happy with who you are, and learn to share the real you with others and help them along this same path. Than life will take on a whole new meaning for you and success will always follow.

Your Brain Can Be Used To Increase Your Willpower

September 17th, 2011

Now I know that I will be dating myself here, but remember the very famous phrase that comedian Flip Wilson brought to light, back in the 70′s; “the devil made me do it.” Maybe some of you have tried to use that one before, trying to get out of some sticky situation that you got yourself into, I know I have, but there is another one that you can use that might not be to far from the truth…my brain made me do it.

If you started to use that one, you might be right on the mark. The brain controls many more actions and reactions that we have to an immense array of didn’t situations that come into our lives, than we give it credit for.

Scientists are just beginning to scratch the surface of the incredible complex computer that is our brains. Our brain is the center of our nervous system. It controls the functions of all the other organs in our bodies. From this elaborate and sophisticated organ, come all of our thoughts, feelings, and actions that we take with us every day.

There are centers in the brain that are responsible for focus, judgment, and impulse control. There is also a pleasure and motivation center which is the main driver for all our behaviors. This is where emotional memory centers store up past experiences that trigger impulses to our behavior.

According to addiction specialist, Mark Laaser, Ph.D., “the arousal template in the emotional memory centers underlies many behaviors that get out of control.

When I was a kid, I had a sweet craving like no one else, and to help me curb these harmful cravings my parents gave me and my brother one day of the week, that we could indulge ourselves. Every Saturday was called, “Candy Day” at our house. That was the day that we were able to go and get some candy to enjoy and fill those cravings that our brains were demanding. Now we were not allowed to eat candy all day long, but we were allowed to get one or two treats to enjoy.

As much as my parents were trying to do the right thing, they only made the situation worse. Candy now became a bigger taste of reward and pleasure to me. Every time I did something that was good, the pleasure and comfort of some nice soothing chocolate melting in my mouth, was something that I always looked forward to.

This can be some of the problem that we see when people over eat, and use food as a comforting response to something that we achieved or didn’t like doing. Food than becomes the reward, comfort, or safety net that we use. It’s a place to hide, or a form of release that takes us away from whatever we don’t want to face or go through.

The first experience gets locked into our brains, and when you get older, you seek to repeat that experience because it was the way you had the first arousal or pleasurable experience. Understanding the triggers for emotional eating can be very helpful to breaking addictions. And this is the same for any type of emotional addictions, such as sex, drugs, drinking, gambling, or smoking etc.

Your brain can be used to increase your willpower

Now I know that there maybe other factors that come into play, and this is a topic that could go on and on, but if you are struggling to lose weight and you’ve tried every kind of diet there is, you might want to take an inventory of your life. Sit down and think if there is something that you can connect the dots too, that maybe triggering the emotional responses that you’re having problems with today. Something that maybe tied to the pleasure of eating.

I know this is not an easy thing to do, but I know for me, the answers were right under my nose, but I just didn’t want to look at them. I thought if I ignored them long enough, they would just go away by themselves, but they never do. They only get bigger and intensify and also will eventually infect others around us. People that we love will get hurt by them.

Sometimes we just need a little bit of help, because we might not be able to see them from all the different in’s and outs that life can bring. Check with your doctor to see if you maybe suffering from some experience in the past that is triggering why you just can’t lose that weight, or why you just can’t stop doing that bad habit that is hurting you and your family.

Our brains are very complex, but just like the old computer saying goes; “garbage in, garbage out.” When was the last time that you took some time for yourself? Take a day or a weekend for you or with your spouse, just relax and reflect on your past. Leave the cell off, and the computer behind, and just spend some time reminiscing.Talk and listen to one another.

If you would like more information on how to use your brain to get and keep the body you’ve always wanted, you may purchase a copy of the book that inspired this article. “Change Your Brain – Change Your Body” by Daniel G. Amen, Clicking on the book to the right of you will take you to the Amazon link. This book was on the New York Times bestseller list. It’s an easy read and very informative.

Your brain can be used to increase your willpower

Hold the mirror up to your face. Who do you see? I bet if you look long enough, you will see a wonderful person who is full of life. I bet there is a person in that mirror that you may not have seen for a long time. Someone that people love to be around because of the positive energy that flows from you.

Get rid of that garbage and start to download to your computer brain, you know the one that’s at the center of your nervous system and controls the rest of your body, the kind of stuff that will bring about the behavior that you want.

Remember, if you don’t take control of yourself, everyone else will.