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A Heart of Gratitude

February 15th, 2012
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We live in a very ungrateful society today. This all breeds the negativism that we see all to well, every day and every where.

There have been some very interesting scientific studies done in recent past, on this very subject. These are scientific proofs, that negativism, and all the other bad stuff that are associated with it, are detrimental to your health.

You want to grow up into a mean old person, barking out negativity and sarcasm, wherever you go, not having any friends or family members that want to be around you, and shortening your life, then continue on the road you’re traveling. Stop reading this blog post right now, and go out and yell and complain to someone. Sit alone in your house tonight, watching some old movie on the TV, waiting by your phone…that never rings, because nobody wants to talk to you.

This is going to be short and straight to the point.

A Heart of Gratitude

Studies have shown,(Emmons & McCullough, 2003), that if you list and journal five things that you are grateful for, every single morning, before any negativism has a chance to creep into you, you will live longer and your life will be more fruitful by a whooping 25%. That’s one-quarter longer to live, just for feeling and expressing gratitude.

There has been a lot of interest and study in the psychology of gratitude. Just think, that adopting the attitude and mindset of a grateful heart can actually add good years of health and prosperity to your life. That operates totally against the main stream of our society today. That is definitely swimming up-stream and against the current of the way most people live.

Most people are always on the go and live life at a very fast pace in order to keep up with the rest of the world, and if you’re trying to get ahead, well you just better be going at a breakneck speed in order to accomplish that.

The psychology of gratitude is a very new study. Real serious studies only began around the year 2000. This very fact just proves, that even in research and scientific study , we were more apt to study the negative of distress and human discouragement, rather than the positive of good feelings and emotions brought on by gratitude.

The psychology of gratitude is looked at as a viable means of treatment now, for people who are suffering with depression, and other psychological disorders.

Grateful people are happier, less depressed, less stressed, and more satisfied with their lives and social relationships. They also have more control of their environments, personal growth, purpose in life, and self acceptance.

They have more positive ways of coping with the difficulties they experience in their lives, being more likely to seek support from other people,  and grow from their experience, rather than be overwhelmed by the experience.

Grateful people also have more positive coping strategies, and are less likely to try to avoid the problem, deny there is a problem, or blame themselves or someone else.

Grateful people sleep better, and this seems to be because they think less negative and more positive thoughts.

All in all the person who has developed a grateful heart through practice, and life’s everyday experiences, has a tremendous edge over everyone else. There is proven scientific evidence now, that verifies this, and I would definitely encourage you to institute this into your everyday life. It’s good for you and you will live longer.

Take the test. Start to journal your five things that you are grateful for every single day, and see if your life and your health doesn’t improve.

 

5 Things You Must Have to be Happy

February 1st, 2012
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The elusive dream that we all chase after, how different it is for each and every one of us….to be happy. What does that really mean and how does one go about to bring real happiness into our lives.

Are You Happy?

Because we are all wired differently, happiness has different meanings for all of us. I’m from Detroit, Michigan, and for so many of us here, happiness would be seeing the Detroit Lions win a Superbowl, that would be real happiness.

To others, happiness would mean meeting that right person to settle down with, getting that big break on American Idol, or landing that big contract that sets you up financially for the rest of your life.

What is happiness to you? I want you to take a couple of minutes right now, and really give that some thought. What would really make you happy? What would really make your life complete?

I want to give you 5 things that you must have to be happy. Five absolutely essential ingredients you must have before your life can ever experience real happiness.

These are five elements that aren’t very easy to find. They are not just out there for anyone to pick up. They are elements that you have to search for, and they are character qualities that you must possess and then give away before you can ever have any real true happiness.

We have it all wrong in our society today. We go out and we try to find people who have these elements, and are willing to give them away to us before we ever even consider anything else.

1. Do You Want to Be Happy?

Be Happy!

Some people are content just doing what they are doing, and if happiness comes, great, but if it doesn’t, that’s alright with them. Happiness is not on the top of their agenda.

I know some people who are miserable, and full of negativity. You could give them a million dollars and they would complain that the bills were to stiff. They seem to enjoy that place that they hold all by their lonesome, because not to many people want to be around them.

You have to find out, if the pursuit of happiness is what you really want in your life, and than go out and make it happen.

2. Truth

Truth must be at the heart and core of any real pursuit of happiness, because without it you will wander aimlessly for the rest of your life, maybe touching the hem of the happiness garment, without ever really getting into it.

Truth is something that is not very easy to find in our world today. Nobody tells the truth anymore and no one really cares. We lie to the police when we get pulled over, we lie on our taxes, we lie to our spouses, bosses, and on and on it goes.

I don’t care if it’s a relationship with your spouse, a relationship with your boss, your kids, your friends, if it’s not based on truth you have nothing. Truth has got to be there. Find a man or women of integrity, and you’ve found a very rare person.

3. Trust

Trust goes along with truth. Without truth, you will never have trust. They go hand in hand. You can’t have one with out the other. It’s so important to build your relationships around these two elements, but be careful, because if you lose one of them, you will lose them both, and they are very hard to get back.

The story goes of a man who, after a year of dating his girlfriend, decided he was going to ask her to marry him at this years Superbowl game. He spent over $8000 for tickets and everything, when he was diagnosed with kidney cancer. When his girlfriend found out…she dumped him. Come to find out, that his cancer was not terminal, and he should have a full recovery.

I guess you could say that his cancer not only saved his life, but also saved him from making the biggest mistake in his pursuit of real happiness. There was certainly no truth or trust, and not very much love either.

4. Give

I hear so many people today that think they are in this relationship for what you can give to me. The, “What Have You Done For Me Lately”, song by Janet Jackson is their favorite song.

I read people on Twitter say, “this is the way I am, and you better take me the way I am. I don’t give a **** what you think”. If you are dating or are friends to a person with this kind of attitude, run as fast and as far away from them as you can.

There are chemicals that are released in our bodies whenever we give or do something good for someone else, without expecting anything in return. This chemical called, endorphins that are released make us feel good, and they are good for us.

Maybe you’ve already experienced this, when you helped someone out, or picked something up for them, or were just there to do good for no reason at all. Didn’t you feel great afterwards? It’s a very special feeling. Learn how to give.

5. Take

This might sound weird being on the list to make you happy, but it has a very important role for us. I don’t mean to take for selfish reasons and with the idea of hurting someone else, what I mean is to learn the humbleness of allowing to receive what someone else is giving.

My wife is a very loving and giving person. She will always go above and beyond what anyone is expecting, and she will never ever, accept anything in return. She is always there to help anyone who is in need.

When her mother passed away a few years ago, it was a very hard time for her. She was very close with her mother, and she was struggling. Well we had friends and family that came along side and were helping out with everything, but as it is with my wife, she just naturally got up and started doing her thing.

One of our friends came alongside her and almost had to nail her to her chair, and told her that this was her time to take. Let her friends have the blessing of giving to her during a time that they knew she really needed it. My wife right then and there, had to learn how to take.

All these elements are not going to be easy to find, but they must be there for you or I to ever find happiness. I’ll give you a hint on where you can start your search. They’re not out there, the first place that you must look is right inside of you. If you don’t find them there, you won’t find them anywhere.

You see the 5 things that you must have to be happy are found in your heart. They must be in you first before you can even start to look for them in others.

Happiness affects every part of your being. When you’re happy, you’re healthy, and when you’re happy and healthy it starts to spill over onto everyone around you.

Start spilling over onto other people around you…they won’t mind.

 

 

 

 

 

Commitment is Required in Anything You Do

January 20th, 2012
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A word that has dramatically faded in the mist of our society today is the word commitment. You just don’t hear it spoken much anymore, and you definitely don’t see it being played out in the world very much either.

According to the dictionary, the word commit means; “to bind or obligate, as by pledge or assurance; pledge: to commit oneself to a promise; to be committed to a course of action.”

To be committed to a course of action, that’s what commitment means, and that holds true to anything we do in life.

There are many things that we commit ourselves to all the time, but seeing it all the way to the end is another subject.

Are you married? Are you committed to your spouse and your marriage today, as much as you were when you first came into this union with your lifelong partner? I think this is why there are so many divorces today, because we lack commitment to the ones that we pledged our love and devotion too when we said I do.

I think that’s why there are so many people won’t go down the path of “Holy Matrimony” anymore, because they’re so afraid of commitment to only one person. It’s really a very selfish act, when you think about it.

Successful people are committed people, whether it’s in marriage, business, sports, or any other road that you decide to travel. If you are not committed to seeing it all the way to the end, to its completion, you will fail! Not maybe, or if…you will fail! That is 100% true all the time!

Why?

Because non committed people are quitters, and a quitter will never, ever win.

People who don’t want too, or are unable to commit, are really giving themselves a way out, that some day down the road, they may want to end this endeavor, and without a commitment, they leave themselves an open door to exit whenever they want too.

When we are totally lacking commitment in anything, we are setting our selves up for failure. We are really saying that, I’m in this as long as I’m comfortable and things are going my way, but the minute we hit rough waters, and the waves start to splash in over the side, I’m bailing out.

There are countless stories of committed people who overcame tremendous odds to come out a winner in the end. They never gave up on a dream, a person, or a business, and despite being that fish swimming up-stream, they pursued their commitment to a successful end.

  1. Thomas Edison tried over ten thousand times before he came up with the incandescent light bulb.
  2. The “Chicken Soup for the Soul” book series, by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen, was rejected by 123 publishers. There are now 70 million copies in print today, and in 58 different countries.
  3. Dewy Bozella, wrongly convicted and imprisoned for almost 32 years of his life, for a crime he didn’t commit,  earned his freedom, and was the recipient of the 2011 “Arthur Ashe Award for Courage.” Read his incredible story Here.
    These are just three stories of the courage, and perseverance of commitment. The one thread that runs through all three of these stories is exactly the same.  They were all committed till the end, and the end for all of them was victory and success, and they would not stop until this was accomplished and completed…nothing else would do, and nothing else would bring them any kind of satisfaction.I don’t care if it’s in your marriage, your business, or losing weight, you will never accomplish anything until you are truly committed. Committed to a course of action, and stay committed until you reach your goal and win the prize.

    “Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one receives the prize? So run that you may obtain it.
    Every athlete exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable.
    So I do not run aimlessly; I do not box as one beating the air.  But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified.” 1 Corinthians 9:24-26

    Think before you commit, but once you commit, stay committed all the way to the end… and you will win the prize.

    You can do it!

     

     

The Body Image Killers

November 14th, 2011
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The power of the mind. It’s totally incredible the power that lies between our ears. Scientists have studied and researched the awesome power that is in the human mind for centuries, and we’ve just scratched the surface of the immense power that lies deep inside.

I wrote an article awhile back on how the brain can be used to increase your willpower. The human abilities to do a lot of things would just blow you away, but we live in a very negative environment, and those negatives vibes and thought can be detrimental to your health, both physically and mentally.

To show you an example how powerful this is, I want you to go back into your childhood, back when you were growing up. Think of something that happened to you or maybe was said to you that so much effected you that even today, maybe after years and years, you can still vividly remember it.

As my wife was growing up and going through those very tough adolescent years, she remembers her father telling her, that it looked like she was smuggling water melons inside her thighs. It totally devastated her and she can still remember it as if it was only yesterday.

I think most of us, during those very sensitive adolescent years, when we were all so vulnerable and wide open for those kinds of attacks, were hurt the most. It’s during those times, when those negative remarks have scared us and cut us with deep riveting wounds, some that have still never healed completely.

Science has proven that a positive mental way of thinking can aid the human body in healing itself. Our human bodies are very complicated and intricate, but the human minds play an extreme role in not only the healing process, but in athletes excelling in their sports, and for all of us to be innovative and productive in all of the skills that God has gifted us with. Whatever your field of expertise is, engineering, writing, science, business, law enforcement, raising children, all of it can be rewarding and fulfilling with the right positive influences, but beware…because with just one timely accurate negative shot, and the whole thing can come tumbling down…if you let it.

Did you know that just the way you think of your body, your self-image, can determine how healthy you will be? Talk to people who are obese and overweight, and all of them have a very negative view of themselves and the way people perceive them.

Don’t let the body image killers, kill you!

I think that I am more sensitive to this than the average person because I was raised in such a negative home. I was so used to the negative comments growing up that I just never thought of myself as an achiever or someone who could do something with my life. I wouldn’t even try because I had decided, before I even started, that I would fail. This kind of viewpoint haunted me for most of my life, and even today still trys to come back and tell me that I can’t do it.

Negativism and negative people just get under my skin today. I have a real hard time dealing with them, and I know that we all have to at some point here and there, but it’s never an easy thing.

For those of you who are religious and read your bible, see how many times throughout the scriptures, God talks about a good positive mental attitude.

“as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7. “Finally, brothers and sisters,whatever is true, whatever is worthy of respect, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if something is excellent or praiseworthy, think about these things.” Philippians 4:8.

We live in a world that is negative and loves to swim in the ocean of negativism. News media sells news that’s all negative, because that’s what people want to hear.

I love sports and I love my Detroit Lions football team. They started out this season by rolling off five straight wins. Everything was rocking an rolling well with them, but all of a sudden they lost two games, and the negative remarks just  came out. People were turning on them and were talking and accentuating all the mistakes and negative elements of their game. How quickly all those people were jumping on the negative band wagon. Why? Because that’s where most of us live, but you know what…that’s a choice you make. You don’t have to park yourself there.

I’m going to give you three steps to take to change your course right now.

Surround yourself with positive people

Now I don’t mean to go out and divorce your spouse because they said a negative remark toward you, but as best you can, surround yourself with positive people. Your family and friends are your family and friends, don’t run from them but influence them with positive vibes, and don’t let them influence you.

Read and fill your mind with positive things

Stay away from the newspapers and TV. All they talk about is how many people were killed and robbed last night. I like to keep up with what’s happening in the world around me, but learn to filter the information you put into your mind. Remember…junk in…junk out.

Temper negative remarks with a grain of salt

Remember that people who say negative things are swimming in the ocean of negativity, and so they’re not going to be too good at seeing the positive in anything, let alone remarking in a positive way. Be the influence of positivity on them, and you will be surprised at what happens. They may like it, and than you’ve saved them from drowning in the ocean of negativism, or they will hate you and never want to talk to you again, which will be good also.

Get rid of the excuses

You want to lose weight and get on the road to a new healthy you, get rid of the excuses. People can’t make you negative and circumstances can’t keep you from achieving your goals, only you hold that power, not them.

As Dewey Bozella said, “never let fear determine who you are, and never let where you come from determine where you’re going.”

Who are you going to listen to, some stupid remark that was said to you 30, 40, or maybe even 50 years ago? Are you going to let that person control your life and destiny? They probably aren’t even alive anymore, and you’re going to let what a dead person said to you years ago, determine who you are and where you’re going?

Determine today who you are, who you really are… deep down inside, and let that person be the one who stands in the forefront of your life. Let that person guide you and shape you. Don’t let the negative lies from anyone distract you off your course.

Discover the power that lies in you, and let that person come alive, and than you go out, and help others and be that positive influence that the world so desperately needs today.

“Finally, brothers and sisters,  whatever is true, whatever is worthy of respect, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if something is excellent or praiseworthy, think about these things.” Philippians 4:8.

 

Do You Have The Desire To Always Be Something More Than You Are?

October 11th, 2011
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When people go to weddings, lots of pictures are taken. After the celebrating is all over and we get together to see all the great pictures, but there are two very distinctive views as to how we look at those pictures.

When a picture is shown to a women, most of the time she is looking to see how all the other women looked in comparison to her. What they were wearing, how their hair looked, did that dress make them look fat, etc.

When a man looks at those same pictures, he’s just looking to see if he looked cool. He’s not comparing himself with anyone else, he just wants to see if he looked good. This is the way the two genders think and look at themselves, most of the time. There are always those who don’t fit into this mold, but for the most part, this is how men and women view themselves in our society.

Do you always have the desire to be something more than you are?  How many ladies out there are always wishing they had a smaller behind, or they wished they had that women’s hair, or they wished they had that women’s beautiful complexion, and the list goes on and on. It’s almost as if they are totally unhappy with themselves from head top toe. If it were possible to get a body transplant, I think that business would grow into a multimillion dollar industry over night.

Men are just as bad. I wish I didn’t have as much gray hair in my head. I used to have jet black, long and wavy hair when I was in my younger days. The real kicker came when a friend of my wife saw us out at the mall. She remarked to my wife  later, when she talked with her, ” I saw you and your father at the mall the other day.” I wanted to find the nearest whole and crawl into it. Now I have a beautiful wife, but I never thought that I looked like I could be her father, from a distance. It’s the gray hair that makes me look older, from a distance. Naturally when I get closer to you, you see that I am this strong and handsome man…don’t you?

Me, my jet black hair, and my beautiful wife back in our dating days.

The fact is that time doesn’t stand still, and age doesn’t either. We are all getting older and we are all aging. Granted some of us are going faster and in different ways from others, but that’s because we are all different, not better, just different. We are all wired differently and we are all unique in our own special way.

It comes down to getting to know the person that is you inside and becoming comfortable with that person. So many of us are so enamored with how we look compared to others instead of learning to be just you.

Take some time to look in the mirror, I don’t mean how your hair looks or how your makeup is, but to look at the person deep down inside. Take some time to learn about your strengths and the good and positive things that make you unique to everyone else, and don’t tell me that there are none, because there are more than you know. Find a close friend or your spouse, someone who really knows you, and ask them to truthfully and lovingly tell you.

It’s funny that others around us, who know us, can see so many more things in us that we can ever see in ourselves. Why, because we have worked our whole lives trying to program ourselves to be what we think others are, or what others want us to be.

I heard this statement a long time ago, and I can’t remember who said it, but it goes like this; “I am not what I think I am. I am not what you think I am. I have become what I think you think I am.” Now that may sound confusing, but repeat it a  couple of times to yourself nice and slow, and it will become very clear to you.

We live in a very fast paced world today and it seems like it goes faster all the time. We need to take a health day off. Take some time to reflect on you and the awesome person you are. You’re unique, and there is no one else like you. Don’t compare yourself to no one else because there is no one else like you.

There are always things that we can improve upon in our lives, and we should always be growing as individuals, but there is a quality of character that is all you, and there is a foundation that God has laid down that is all you, and that foundation you cannot change and that is the one thing you don’t want to change, because it is the essence of who you are. Learn about it, study it, and add good things to it, but don’t ever change it, and don’t ever wish that you could exchange it for someone else.

When you do this, you will become comfortable and happy with who you are, and learn to share the real you with others and help them along this same path. Than life will take on a whole new meaning for you and success will always follow.

I Blew It! – Now What Do I Do?

August 9th, 2011
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My birthday came this past weekend and yes, there was cake and the pizza was all around me, pop to drink, I was surrounded…Yes I blew it! Now what do I do?

My life is ruined. I’m a complete failure! I’ll never be able to get to the goal of my challenge, which is lose 40 pounds in the next 90 days! Whaaaaaaaa…Whaaaaaa…Whaaaaaa!

(That’s me in the blue coveralls.)

Crying isn't going to help you.

Do you feel sorry for me yet? Did my alligator tears do the trick? I  didn’t think so.

OK, so I blew it this weekend. I had every intention to just have a simple little birthday celebration with just my wife and I, and then she had to go and invite all the kids and the grand-kids over, order the pizza, have my favorite carrot cake, and that was it. It’s all her fault. How could she do this to me? How can you look at all those people eating and celebrating your birthday and not join in on the fun?

It’s not the end of the world if you fall off the wagon, and it’s not the end of you getting back on your challenge, and getting back up on the horse to a healthier you. The only way to end it is when you quit and there is not going to be anyone quitting.

You want to get healthy right? You want to lose some weight right? The road is not going to be smooth all the way. It’s going to take work, persistence, and you might hit a couple of bumps along the way, but that’s OK. It’s all part of the ride. If you fall down, you just get right back up.

Getting through these times is what the team is all about. Doing the Challenge with your friends and family members is what gets you through times like these. The encouragement, the push, and the drive to keep going means everything, and you will never get that, traveling the road by yourself.

I put back on one pound…that’s it. I was really surprised It wasn’t more, but that’s not going to be hard to make up.

The whole point that I’m trying to stress here is that you can, and probably will fall back once or twice, but don’t stop and don’t get to down on yourself.

What’s the reason you’re trying to lose some weight? Why do you want to get back on the healthy track again?

Maybe you’ve had some serious health issues and you want to see your kids grow up or your grand-kids get married. Maybe you want to get back into those skinny jeans you used to wear that drove your husband nuts, or maybe you just want to lose a few pounds and get healthy so you can run that marathon in honor of someone who you lost to cancer.

Keep your eyes on that goal and you will cross that finish line

Whatever your reason to be in this challenge, you cannot think about some small slip up, but you have to always remember why you are in this challenge in the first place.

Always keep your eyes on your goal, on what you have waiting for you when you reach the finish line. Always keep that in the forefront of your mind and thoughts and you can never fail.

This is a challenge, not just to lose weight and get healthy, but for a new life, both physical and financial, and not just for you but for others as well.

Keep moving forward and your eyes fixed on the goal in front of you and you can never fail.


Are You Living With Your Feelings and Emotions?

July 22nd, 2011
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Now I want to make something perfectly clear right from the opening, I am not saying that, “living with passion”, “living for the moment”, or “living with gusto and feeling”, is wrong. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, and God knows I certainly could use a lot more of it in my life, but when it becomes the only source or motivation for your living, you are treading on thin ice. Let me explain.

It’s the ninth inning, and your team is down by one run. The bases are loaded and the fans are screaming and jumping, they want to see the batter get that key hit and bring in the winning run.

The pitcher is thinking of something completely different. He’s not jumping and screaming, his team is silent. He walks to the mound and with total concentration and focus he throws the best pitch he has and the batter strikes out. Now the emotion suddenly shifts over to the other team as they realize they have just won the game.

Did all the feelings and emotions in that stadium change the outcome of the game…no? It was the total focus of that pitcher and what he had to do, despite all of the feelings and emotions that were being displayed from the other team against him, to bring a victory home.

Did that pitcher have any feelings and emotions that were being aroused, absolutely? Did his teammates have any, they sure did? But they learned to harness those emotions, and concentrate on the task at hand. Until the job was complete, they had total focus on what they were doing and what had to be done.

I know that I’m walking a very thin line here, and there will be those people who will say that you have to generate the karma in your direction, to get what you want flowing to you, and I get all that and I’m not arguing that point at all, all I’m saying is there is a right time for that and there is a time to put the gloves on and lets get to work.

Feelings and emotions are always up and down. They are fleeting. Some days you have the good ones, and other days you don’t.

Are you living with your feelings and emotions?

There are days that I don’t feel like going to work, there are days that I don’t want to make those phone calls, and there are those days when it takes every ounce of energy to get the job done and tackle those things on my list for the day, but commitment is what drives me.

Having a commitment to the task, no matter what the feelings and emotions are telling me today, is what drives me. I guess it would be the same thing as having your why. What is your why?

Someone once said, “I feel like quitting this business three times a month”. Someone asked him, “why don’t you than?”, and he replied, “Because deep down inside, I love this business, and I also love my wife and kids.”

When you are committed to a greater cause other then yourself or just something to attain, than you will find the drive and the resources, from deep down within you, and this will keep you going until the job is complete.

Sure there are those good feelings and emotions that come, and we all should accept them and relish in them when they do, but don’t always rely on them to sustain and motivate you to the finish line.

  1. Think positive thoughts
  2. Set goals both long and short term
  3. Find those that will hold you accountable (Don’t ever run alone)
  4. Fill your heart and mind with positive things (You won’t get this from TV)

And when those things go wrong, which they sometimes do, don’t get all bent out of shape, and think it’s the end of the world, get up and brush yourself off and go at it again.

I remember playing this video golf game with my kids, and I wanted to beat them, so I started practicing when they weren’t around. I was practicing my putting and every time that I missed a putt, it would always say, “that’s OK, give her another try”, or “lets give it another go.” That made me feel good and it was coming from a video game.

Find an accountability partner that will do the same thing for you, someone who will encourage and keep you built up, when things are not always going right.

Remember the only way you ever lose is when you quit trying.

Attitude

November 7th, 2009
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I am going to ask you to do something very weird right now. First of all, I want you to listen to your thoughts. Now tell me, what thoughts fill your head? Would you label them as positive, or negative?

Now let’s say you are walking down the street with these thoughts. Do you think anyone who would meet you would be able to tell you what’s on your mind?

The answer to number one is up to you. But, the answer to number two can be pretty generic. Although people will not be able to tell you exactly what you think, they will more or less have an idea of how you are feeling.

Here’s another question. When you enter a party filled with friends, do they all fall silent as if something terrible had happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if waiting for something exciting to happen?

You know what? The answer to all these depends on your frame of mind.

Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your general attitude. The attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, too – unless, of course, you are a great actor.

And it doesn’t end there. Your attitude can also affect people around you.

The type of attitude you carry depends on you. It can be either positive or negative.

Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly invigorating. Plus, the people around the person carrying positive thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude. A positive attitude is very catchy.

Negative thoughts on the other hand have a sapping effect on other people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a funeral wake. Think about this. Of all the characters in the “Whinnie the Pooh” movies, who would you rather want to be around. Eeyore, the negative donkey or Tigger, the positive Tiger?

"Tigger"

"Tigger"

A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude repels them. People tend to shy away from those who carry a negative attitude.

We can also define attitude as the way of looking at the world. If you choose to focus on the negative things in the world, more or less you have a negative attitude brewing up. However, if you choose to focus on the positive things, you are more likely carry a positive attitude.

You have much to gain from a very positive attitude. For one, studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better health. Those with this kind of attitude also have more friends. projecting a positive attitude also helps one to handle stress and problems better than those who have a negative attitude.

A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you will love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others are around feel the same way.

A negative attitude, on the other hand, has, of course, an opposite effect. So, carrying a negative attitude has a twofold drawback. You feel bad about yourself, and you make others feel the same way.

If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to feature healthy thoughts. This is probably very hard to do nowadays since, all around us, the media feeds us nothing but negative thoughts. A study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her child, only one is positive. This is truly a saddening thought.

If you want a healthier outlook in life, you need to think happy thoughts, and you have to hear positive things as well. So, what can you do? Well, for starters, you could see a funny movie, you could play with children, spend some time telling jokes with friends. All these activities fill you with positive stimuli, which in turn promotes positive attitude.

Although it is impossible to keep ourselves from the negative things around us, you can still carry a positive attitude by focusing on the good things, the positive things in life.

And this positive attitude you now carry can be of benefit to other people. Sometimes when other people feel down, the thing people mostly do is try to give them advice. But sometimes, all they need is somebody to sit by them, and listen to them. If you have a positive attitude you may be able to cheer them up without even having to say anything.

If positive attitude is really great, why do people choose to adopt a negative attitude instead? One who carries a negative attitude may be actually sending a signal for attention. Before you get me wrong, feeling sad, angry, or gloomy is not wrong itself. But dwelling on these thoughts for far too long is not healthy either. There is a time to mourn.

As always, if you are beset by troubles, even in your darkest hour, focus on the good things in life, you will always have hope. Problems become something you can overcome. My mom always said, if you feel bad about your situation, you can always find somebody worse off then you.

You do not have much to lose by adopting a healthy, positive attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually retards aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop a better stress coping mechanism, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every day. So, what’s not to like about a positive attitude? Adopt one today.

It can even help you in your business. I have a business called Learning MLM Secrets. It’s not easy to be positive in the economy we have right now, but as a man thinks in his heart, so is he. Try it.

Php 4:8  Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

Brian Gosur